![]() Treating women as only good for sex, and then disrespecting them for being sexually active, or viewing wives as housekeepers only good for providing food or care, are all relatively benign-sounding versions of the femoid or the roastie. But it’s nothing we haven’t seen before - Disdain for women and a tendency to treat women as objects and, therefore, as less than human have long been mainstays of society. ![]() Another term is “roastie,” which incels use for a woman who has had sex some incels think a woman’s value decreases every time she has sex, which adds another layer of hate on top of the already existing bucketful of envious derision they harbor.Īny of this sound familiar? Sure, this is an extreme perception of women. Incels have several derogatory words for women, including “femoid,” which is a combination of female and humanoid, according to Urban Dictionary, and alludes to women having a less-than-human status in their minds. It is this power that incites their hatred for women - the power to be able to pick and choose any partner to date or to have sex with is one incels don’t have, and one that often drives them to entertain violent thoughts against women. While there may be hierarchies to how incels see women different from the stereotypical Stacy, they also predominantly believe that women, by virtue of being so, can choose any sexual partner they want. In incel world, the perfect, conventionally beautiful woman is often referred to as “Stacy” she is a desired, powerful woman by way of her looks, who can get any guy she wants, whom incels think is mostly a “Chad” - the stereotypical jock in college-turned-multimillionaire, tall, white man - and “Brad,” the lighter, less successful, and less charming version of Chad. The root cause changes depends on who’s doing the hating, but more often than not, incels believe it’s the women - as a general population - whose shortsightedness makes incels the way they are. Incels may blame their own physical appearance for not being able to attract women, but they also blame women for not being able to see past their physical appearance and for rejecting them. How incels view womenĪ common theme that jumps out when scrolling through incel forums is the hate incels normalize toward women, which is often couched in how much they hate their own physical appearance. The incel view of societal norms might be blown out of proportion, and might not apply to everyone, but deep down, the root cause of an incel’s isolation lies not in their own minds, but in the fabric of society that lets gender stereotypes abound. And while incels are otherized on the Internet today, especially after a self-proclaimed incel drove through a crowd in Toronto killing several people, how they perceive the world is not far off from how ‘normies’ - as they would call the rest of us - view gender roles and expressions. The incel community was created in the 1990s as an online support group for people who found it awkward to talk to or date other people today, it is a toxic community that promotes hate against a society in which they don’t feel valued, liked or desired, because of their appearances. When looked at through the lens of (mostly) men who blame women for their sexless lives, who normalize hate, even violence against women, and who refuse to take accountability for their behavior, these gender norms, perhaps considered benign before, start to look dangerous. Understanding incel language, then, can provide an insight into how the subtle gender biases by which all of us live our lives become exaggerated. The language used by incels - (mostly) men who are involuntarily celibate - has increasingly permeated the mainstream, from critics calling the protagonist in the latest Joker movie an incel, to words such as ‘Chad’ and ‘Stacy’ increasingly popping up on social media.
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